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qwanderer ([personal profile] qwanderer) wrote2019-01-15 06:45 pm
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This is the real queer agenda:

 I will go to work every day and I will do my job well. I will make friends with my coworkers, make friendly conversation of no consequence, let them share their apple with me at lunch, laugh when I find their jokes funny.

When I don’t, I will bite my tongue and pretend I didn’t hear, because I don’t know yet what would be safe to say if I want to keep my job, if I want to keep their respect.

I will share the load of the workday, share in their complaints and woes, accept their help and their concern, and help and support them in turn, when I can.

Then, some day, months from now, years from now, if the subject comes up in an open and curious way, I will say this:

“Actually, Jim, I’m queer. I don’t experience love/attraction/gender the way people expect me to. I have a different experience.”

If they still consider me a friend, if they still share and support and try to make me laugh, if they still respect me and wish me all the best, then.

Mission accomplished.